Find Your Purpose and Live a Meaningful Life

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Purpose - Purpose Driven Mastery“The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.”

– Richard Leider

Your Life’s Purpose

Are you living a life of purpose?

Do you feel excited waking up in the morning to start your day or do you dread about how your day will unfold?  

Are you grounded like a mountain and know what you stand for or are you just wandering through life like an aimless leaf in the sky blown from one place to another?

Purpose: Leaf - Purpose Driven MasteryWhen you know your purpose in life, you know your exact reasons for doing everything.  

Despite the long name, the reason I gave the name “Purpose Driven Mastery” is to emphasize that every skill that I want to master has a purpose behind it.  

My purpose for living a healthy life is not just to be healthy because it’s the trendy or smart thing to do.  

I live a healthy lifestyle because it allows me to tap into my fullest human potential so I can give 110% in everything that I do, which includes creating my dream life!

My personal benefits include:

  • Serving others better in personal and professional settings.
  • Going after what is most important to me despite my fears and doubts.
  • Living a meaningful life aligned with my values.
  • Experiencing true happiness independent of life’s outcome.

But for me to fully show up, I have to first take care of myself physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually!

Feeling fulfilled and valued based on my definition of success, I can then and only then truly give to others without expecting anything in return.

Purpose: Life - Purpose Driven MasteryBecause life is finite, I want to take advantage of every second that I have.  

So that when the time comes to reflect life on my deathbed, I will be smiling about the life that I lived instead of regretting about the life that I wished I had lived.

If you’re constantly “chasing” external factors to have significance or validation, then you’re going down the wrong path.

You will not feel satisfied because you will always be wanting more.

Nothing will ever be enough for you.

Society is constantly bombarding you with things that you “need” to buy to be “enough.”

It’s a bunch of lie and part of their marketing scheme to generate more revenue.  

The truth is that you’re already enough as you are!

True fulfillment comes from within and it starts when you see yourself as high value and live a life that you truly want!

Finding Your Purpose

There is an exercise that you can do to discover your purpose, calling or mission in life.

This is an exercise by Jeff Goins, the author of The Art of Work: A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant to Do.

It’s also featured on the Art of Charm Podcast and you can listen to the episode here.

This exercise focuses on the three categories of passion, skill, and demand.

It’s not a simple exercise because it takes time, repetition, and most importantly self-honesty.

Passion

Skill

Demand

  • What do I love doing?
  • What am I good at?
  • What am I better at than most people?
  • What am I naturally good at?
  • What do I have that the world needs?
  • What do I have that other people want?

Now draw three circles to create a Venn diagram that looks like something below.For each category, ask yourself the above questions and list out your answers.

Purpose: Finding Your Purpose - Purpose Driven MasteryThe four products are hobby (passion + skill), drudge work (skill + demand), fad (passion + demand), and purpose (passion + skill + demand).

For example, I am passionate about rock-climbing and it’s an adequate skill that I have developed over time.

But because of the lack of demand, it’s only a hobby of mine.

Finding your purpose will take some self-reflection and time.  

If after some time working on the exercise and you still can’t find your purpose, then ask yourself the following two questions.

  1. Is there a passion from the drudge work category that I can learn and cultivate?
  2. Is there a skill from the fad category that I can learn and master?

Some other helpful questions you can ask yourself are:

  • What do I truly want in life?
  • What makes me come alive?
  • How do I want to live the rest of my life?
  • What makes me excited or ticked?
  • What do I spend most of my time thinking about?

Another exercise you can do is to list out your core values and rank them.

I discovered my purpose using that technique.

My top three core values are:

  1. Health
  2. Continuous growth
  3. Contribution

Fusing these three values together produced the purpose to help men become better versions of themselves.

Continuous growth and expansion of my knowledge for personal development is already something that I do.

But if I can do that, help others in the process, and create income (to meet demand), then that is the perfect combination.

Freedom is another top core value of mine as well because I want to choose:

  • What I want to do with my life
  • Where I want to live
  • Whom I want to spend my time with

By investing in freedom now, I can clearly define what financial freedom means to me.

As a result, I know exactly what I need to fuel my dream lifestyle.

What To Do After You Find Your Purpose

You have the following options after discovering your life purpose.

  1. Ignore your life purpose and continue to live the same life that you already have.
  2. Start living your purpose with no intention of creating income.
  3. Start living your purpose and create ways to monetize it.

Choosing option 2 and 3 will give you fulfillment in your life.

For option 3, instead of diving in head first and going all in, I would recommend building your business on your free time while keeping your job to mitigate risk.  

If there is a high enough demand for you to pursue your business full-time, then by means quit your job and go all in.  

Starting a business involves some planning, but don’t sit around and wait for the perfect plan.  

The best plan is to take action and start!

Purpose: Take Action - Purpose Driven MasteryJust as I have learned, you will learn what you need to do as you grow your business along the way.

Any business will need a substantial amount of foundational work upfront to get it off the ground and keep it running.

To have a sustainable business, it requires building trust and credibility to form healthy relationships with your target customers.

Creating a business that you love is not easy, but it’s definitely worth it!

Your Definition of Success

Success means different things to different people.  

How do you define it?

Is your success defined by society to pursue happiness by chasing external factors?

Are you following the path of earning a high paycheck so you can get the fancy car, buy the big house, get married, have children, and live happily ever after or some other variation of this belief?

Purpose: Society's Belief - Purpose Driven MasteryAre you working hard to earn money so you can buy things to make you look “successful?”

Don’t let money control you!

Because you have been socially conditioned for years since you were young, it’s not surprising that you have this belief!

“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.”

– Jim Carrey

As for my definition of success, it’s not depicted by external factors such as how much money is in my bank account, the type of car that I drive, or how big my house is.

Success to me is living life by my values and going after what I truly want in life!

As a result, I will always be growing as a person.

I’m not concerned about how much money I earn or how many people I can impact.

My only concern is how I feel about my contribution to my growth and that of society.

Because I also have bills to pay and if it comes down to it, I will get a job and pursue my purpose on my free time instead.

Leaving my job is not the end all be all since I always have the choice to go back and get a job to support my lifestyle.

Closing Thoughts

Finding your purpose is a process, as it requires a deep understanding of yourself at the core level.

Purpose: Strong Grounded Man - Purpose Driven MasteryLiving a purposeful life might not be for you.  

If the life you’re currently living works for you, then keep up the great work!

But if you want to make a change in your life, then you must put in time and effort.

The truth is that if something is truly important to you, then you will make the time for it.

If not, then you will create an excuse or cling to a self-limiting belief and prevent you from going after what you want.

You breathe, eat, and sleep.  

But you do those activities because of survival reasons.  

You go to work so you can have money to pay for the things that you want, including the bare necessities for survival.

If you want something as badly as you want to live, then you will get that something because you will not let anything get in your way!  

“Your blessing in life is when you find the torture you’re comfortable with…You master that, you’ve mastered life. It’s a torture I love.”

– Jerry Seinfeld

It will only be a matter of time, and it’s directly correlated to your deliberate effort.

It will be a race between getting what you want and death.

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If you have any questions and/or comments on finding your purpose, please leave a comment below or send me an email.

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3 COMMENTS

  1. Thank you for the kind words Vinnie!

    The article you’re referring to is the author of Man’s Searching for Meaning.

    It is a powerful book that described a man who was able to find meaning during his time in the concentration camps during the Holocaust.

    I can’t even imagine another place that has harsher conditions than those at concentration camps.

    If he can find meaning and purpose to persevere through those conditions, then we ought to be able to as well, regardless of our current situation.

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