“The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.”
― Richard Leider
Your Most Important Discovery in Life
Are you living a life of purpose?
Do you feel excited waking up in the morning to start your day? Or do you dread about how it will unfold?
Are you grounded like a mountain and know what you stand for? Or are you wandering aimlessly like a leaf in the sky blown from one place to another?
When you realize your life’s purpose, you know your exact reasons for doing everything.
Despite the long name, “Purpose Driven Mastery,” the meaning behind it is to emphasize every skill I want to master has a reason.
For example, my purpose for healthy living isn’t because it’s trendy or wise to do. The motivation for it is to unleash my fullest potential so I can give 100% in everything I do, which includes creating my dream life.
My benefits include:
Serving others better in personal and professional settings.
Having the courage to go after what is most important to me despite fears and doubts.
Living a meaningful life aligned with my values.
Experiencing more fulfillment and happiness independent of life’s outcome.
But for me to fully show up, I have to first take care of myself physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.
Feeling fulfilled and valued based on my definition of success, I can then truly give to others without expecting anything in return.
Because my time is finite, I want to take complete advantage of every second I have. I don’t want to squander the beautiful opportunity I call life.
When the inevitable time comes as I lay on my deathbed, I will be smiling about the life I lived, instead of regretting about the one I wished I had experienced. Having embraced life on my own terms, I will peacefully go to the grave with battle scars knowing I have fully lived.
In my journey of self-discovery, I have learned not to fall into the trap of constantly “chasing” external factors to have significance or validation.
It’s an endless vicious path.
I will never truly feel satisfied because I will always be wanting more.
Nothing will ever be enough for me.
Society is constantly bombarding me with things I “need” to buy to be “enough.” It’s part of their marketing scheme to generate more revenue.
The truth is this:
I am and will always be enough right now.
True fulfillment and happiness come from within. It starts when I see myself as high value and live a life true to me.
Finding Your Purpose
By completing the exercise by Jeff Goins, the author of The Art of Work: A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant to Do, you can start to find your life’s purpose.
This strategy focuses on the three categories of passion, skill, and demand. It’s not a simple task as it requires time, repetition, and most importantly self-honesty.
Now draw three circles to create a Venn diagram that looks like something below. For each area, ask yourself the above questions and write out your answers.
The four products are hobby (passion + skill), drudge work (skill + demand), fad (passion + demand), and purpose (passion + skill + demand).
For example, I am passionate about rock climbing and it’s an adequate skill I have developed over time. But because of my lack of interest in becoming a professional, it’s only a hobby of mine.
Finding your purpose will take some deep self-reflection and patience. If after some time working on the exercise and you still can’t find your “why,” ask yourself the following two questions.
“Is there a passion from the drudge work category I can learn and cultivate?”
“Is there a skill from the fad category I can grasp and master?”
Some other helpful questions you can ask yourself are:
“What do I truly want in life?”
“What makes me come alive?”
“How do I want to live the rest of my life?”
“What makes me excited or ticked?”
“What do I spend most of my time thinking about?”
“What would I do if I had all the time and the money in the world?”
“What would I pursue if I knew I wouldn’t fail?”
Another exercise you can do is to list out your core values and rank them. I discovered my purpose using that technique.
For example, my top three core values are:
- Continuous growth
Fusing those three together produced the purpose to help men become better versions of themselves. Continuous growth and expansion of my knowledge for personal development is already something I practice daily.
But if I can do that, help others in the process, and create income (to meet demand), then that is the perfect combination.
Freedom is another top core value because I want to choose:
- What I want to do with my life
- Where I want to live
- Whom I want to spend my time with
By investing in freedom now, I can clearly define what financial independence means to me. As a result, I know exactly what I need to fuel my dream lifestyle.
Your Choices Dictate Your Life
Here are the options after you’ve discovered your life’s purpose.
- Ignore it and continue to live your current life.
- Start living it with no intention of creating income.
- Begin delving into it and monetize it.
Choosing option two or three will give you more fulfillment and happiness.
For option three, instead of diving in head first and going all in, I would recommend building your venture on your free time while keeping your job to mitigate risk. After some time, if there is a high enough demand for you to pursue your business full-time, then fully commit to it.
Starting a company involves some planning, but don’t sit around and wait for the perfect recipe.
The best strategy is to take action and start.
Just as I have discovered, you will learn what you need to do as you explore deeper. Any venture will require a substantial amount of foundational work upfront to get it off the ground and remain sustainable.
To have a thriving business, you must build trust and credibility to form healthy relationships with your target customers.
Creating a company you love and care about is not easy, but it’s definitely worth it.
Your Definition of Success
Everyone’s definition of success is different.
How do you define it?
- Is your interpretation of success defined by society to pursue happiness by chasing external factors?
- Are you following the path of earning a high salary so you can get the fancy car, buy the big house, get the woman, have children, grow old, retire, and live happily ever after?
- Are you working hard to earn money so you can buy things you don’t truly “need” to make you look “successful?”
- Is money controlling you?
Because you have been socially conditioned for years since you were young, it’s not surprising you have these beliefs.
“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.”
― Jim Carrey
There’s nothing inherently wrong with having all those luxurious goods. They’re all great things to have.
- But what is your reason for obtaining them?
- Do they make you any more or less of a man?
- Would your self-worth be damaged if they were gone?
Most importantly, is that your definition of success?
As for my indication of success, it’s not depicted by external factors such as how much money is in my bank account, the type of car I drive, or how big my house is.
Success to me is living by my values and going after what I truly want. As long as I’m taking action pursuing what I desire, I will always be growing.
I’m focused on the action, not the result.
For example, I’m not concerned about how much money I earn or how many people I can help. My only specification is how I feel about my contribution to my growth and that of society.
Because I also have bills to pay and if it comes down to it, I will get a job and pursue my purpose on the side. Leaving my work is not the end all be all since I always have the choice to return to the workforce and support my lifestyle.
Finding your purpose is a process, as it requires a deep understanding of yourself at the core level.
Living a purposeful life might not be for you. If your current lifestyle works, keep it up.
However, if you want to make a lasting change, you must put in the necessary work.
The truth is this:
If something is truly important to you, you will make the time for it.
It is simple as that.
Otherwise, you will create an excuse or cling to a self-limiting belief to prevent you from going after what you want.
Look at your life, you breathe, eat, drink, and sleep.
You do those things for self-preservation. You go to work because it gives you money to pay for things you want and need, including the essentials for survival.
If you desire something as badly as you want to live, you will obtain it because you won’t let anything get in your way.
“Your blessing in life is when you find the torture you’re comfortable with. You master that, you’ve mastered life. It’s a torture I love.”
― Jerry Seinfeld
It will only be a matter of time, and it’s directly correlated to your deliberate effort. The race is between your deepest desires and death.
Who will win?
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