“I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.”
― Albert Einstein
Imagine two men’s goals are to lose weight. Let’s call them Tom and Joe.
Tom’s reason is to have a nice looking body while Joe wants to feel energetic and prolong his life.
Two months later, Tom gives up on his goal.
He stops exercising and starts eating everything in sight.
But Joe, on the other hand, is still working hard on his goal.
He keeps up with his workouts five days a week and maintains a healthy diet with mostly nutrient-dense food.
Why do you think Tom gave up on his goal while Joe didn’t?
Is it because Joe had more willpower and determination than Tom?
Or is it some external factor that Joe doesn’t have?
The difference is their “why!”
Because of your strong purpose and reason, you’re more likely to follow through with your actions and achieve your goal.
That’s where you will succeed where others have failed.
Tom’s reason for losing weight is superficial because he simply wants to look good.
That basis will not motivate him to exercise when he feels too lazy to go to the gym or eat healthy foods when there are other tempting options.
Joe’s purpose for losing weight is to increase his life’s longevity and to have more energy.
Do you think he will skip a workout even though he feels tired?
Will he give into instant gratification by eating unhealthy choices instead of fueling his body with nutrient-dense food?
If your “why” is strong, then you can overcome any challenges that life throws at you.
The Golden Circle
In his book Start With Why, Simon Sinek’s discussed The Golden Circle.
Just like your brain, The Golden Circle has three layers.
On the surface layer, you have the “what.”
The second layer is “how” and the third layer is “why.”
You know exactly “what” you do and “how” you do it.
But do you know “why” you do it?
Take a minute and think about that.
What is your purpose for everything that you do?
Why do work at your current job?
Why do you spend time on what you do?
Because when you start with “why,” it will lead to “how” and “what.”
Your strong “why” will allow you to find your “how” by searching for ways to do it.
You won’t give up until you figure it out.
When your “why” is weak, you will make excuses and give up.
Your “why” is imperative when it comes to setting goals.
Here are my five steps for setting and achieving goals.
1. Be Specific
When setting goals, it’s much better to set big goals and come close than to set small goals and reach them.
The first step is to get specific.
If you want to lose weight, then specify how much weight you want to lose.
Don’t be arbitrary and say you want to have six-pack abs, have more muscle, or lose fat.
By having a specific number, you can measure your results.
You can track your progress on a consistent basis by weighing yourself.
2. Have a Deadline
The second step is to create a deadline for your goals.
Back to the losing weight example, when do you want to lose the specified weight by?
This is important because it lets you know exactly when you must reach your goals.
By having a deadline, you’re less likely to procrastinate.
You won’t make up excuses because you won’t have all the time in the world to reach your goals.
3. Create An Action Plan
The third step is to create an action plan for your goals.
For the losing weight example, how are you going to lose the weight?
What action steps are you going to take? How many workouts will you do per week? When will you do them?
How many workouts will you do per week? When will you do them?
When will you do them?
What about your diet? Will you prepare your meals? When will you prepare them?
Will you prepare your meals? When will you prepare them?
When will you prepare them?
Get extremely detailed and put them on your calendar to meet your deadline so you know exactly what you will be doing every day!
To make sure that you follow through with your action plan, ask family members or friends to hold you accountable.
By having accountability partners, you’re more likely to follow through with your actions.
If you don’t do it, then you will be letting yourself and your accountability partners down.
There will be a lot more at stake.
You can have your accountability partners join you on your goals for further support.
To make it even more interesting and worthwhile, you can have consequences for not achieving your progress or goals.
Examples including donating money to an organization that you despise, making the existing goal much more difficult, or a humiliation act in public.
5. Track Your Progress
Because of your specific goals, you can measure and track your progress.
If you’re trying to lose weight and your weight hasn’t been going down, then reevaluate your action plan.
Are you sticking to your workout regimen and eating healthy?
Is there something you should do differently?
Be completely honest with yourself and make proper adjustments.
The key is to be consistent and persistent.
Having a strong “why” is crucial to achieving your goals.
Success is made up of consistent action with perseverance.
Why are you working so hard to climb the corporate ladder?
What if you’re leaning the ladder against the wrong wall?
You sacrifice your health at the cost of reaching your goals.
What is the value of money if you don’t have the health to enjoy it?
What about your relationships?
Is earning the extra money worth jeopardizing your relationships with your loved ones because you don’t have the time to spend with them?
What they truly want from you is your time and presence.
Have a clear understanding of your “why” for doing everything.
Live your life more deliberately and intentionally.
Do more of what you love and spend more time with those who you love.
Don’t let your precious time fade away.
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