“Consistent action creates consistent results.”
― Christine Kane
Define Your Success
Action speaks priority in my life and my recipe for success is consistent action.
Success to me is not based on external things such as how much money is in my bank account, how big my house is, how fancy my car is, or how beautiful my woman is.
My definition of success is my contribution to my growth and that of society.
What is yours?
How do you define it?
I used to believe money was the definition of success, but I was deeply mistaken.
After graduating from college, I directly transitioned into the professional world.
For the sake of chasing money, I compromised my health.
Then I went on a long health transformation journey.
Improving my health was the catalyst for improving different areas of my life.
It opened up the Pandora’s box of what else is possible?
Following my curiosity in gathering knowledge, I turned to books.
Growing up, I never liked reading.
But as I later discovered, that’s because I was reading the wrong material.
Most of the materials I read were boring textbooks and fictional novels that I wasn’t interested in.
Everything changed when I started reading about topics that I deeply cared about.
Other than health, I started reading about finance, relationships, and spirituality.
Along the journey, I learned that I was improving myself not because I wasn’t “good enough.”
It was the opposite.
True personal development can only come after self-acceptance.
I improve myself because of self-love and self-respect.
By becoming better, I can make everyone else around me better.
After many years of personal development, I determined the four pillars of my life.
The first and most foundational pillar of my life is health.
Because without health, nothing else matters.
If my health is not in check, then I won’t be able to enjoy everything else in my life.
When it comes to health, it starts with my eating lifestyle.
The book The Wild Diet by Abel James revolutionized the idea of dieting for me.
It focuses on eating nutrient-dense at its natural form.
This means vegetables without pesticides and meats that are from healthy pastured animals.
The delicious meal recipes changed the “diet” view for me.
It’s not a diet because I don’t do it for a limited amount of time.
Rather, it’s a lifestyle that I will do for the rest of my life!
As for desserts, you can still eat them using real food ingredients.
Who says eating healthy have to suck?
As crazy as it may sound, I look forward to eating salads.
To get strong and build the body of my dreams, I used the book Bigger Leaner Stronger by Michael Matthews.
The book emphasizes on compound exercises such as squats, deadlifts, military press, and bench press.
These are the best exercises to do because they target multiple large muscle groups.
All of the claims are backed by scientific research and anecdotal experiences from numerous people.
My biggest takeaway from the book was increasing my protein intake based on my unique body composition to build muscle.
Tracking my macronutrient intake is also important for building my target body composition.
Combining the workouts, healthy eating lifestyle, and high-quality recovery allowed me to achieve my dream body.
The second pillar of my life is wealth.
Most people see wealth as the accumulation of money.
But for me, wealth is the amount of positive impact that I make.
The book that changed my perspective on wealth is The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco.
For others to spend their precious money on my products and services, I must provide real and tangible value that people can’t live without.
Emphasizing on scale, the law of effection can create a big income by impacting millions of people.
A business can still make a huge income even if the scale is not large as long as the price of a product or service is expensive justified by the magnitude of impact.
This book gave me the pathway to create products and services that I have control over the price.
In effect, I am the creator of my financial destiny.
The second book that dramatically changed my views on wealth was The Education of Millionaires by Michael Ellsberg.
This book emphasizes the learning of practical skills such as sales, marketing, leadership and any other skills that will get you ahead in life.
Communication skills such as public speaking and leadership skills are crucial in the workforce.
You can have the best idea in the world.
But if you can’t effectively communicate that to your boss, then it’s completely useless.
This is also true in relationships because you’re in “sales” whether you like it or not.
“Selling” scenarios include trying to convince your friends why they should watch a certain movie or try that new restaurant.
Marketing doesn’t only apply to business, but it also applies to you.
Your personal brand is your marketing and it’s what people think of when they think of you.
What are some traits and qualities that you want people to think of when they hear your name?
Are you embodying those traits?
They matter a lot more than you think.
These things play a key role when you apply for new jobs.
Unfortunately, this essential information isn’t taught in formal education.
Relationships are the third pillar of my life.
My life “bible” is the book The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
This book taught me to live with purpose, the core essence of my life.
Without my purpose, I wander aimlessly like a leaf in the air blown from one place to another.
By giving my life meaning, I can fully show up each day.
Strong and grounded like a mountain, I live with zest knowing exactly what I stand for.
My life’s purpose is my highest priority in life as it even comes before my woman.
Although my woman is important to me, she would feel “cheated” if I were to put her before my purpose.
Even though you think she might want to hear you say she’s your everything, deep down she doesn’t want that because that’s a lot of responsibility for her to uptake.
She doesn’t want to be your only reason for happiness.
You wouldn’t want that either.
She’s only the icing on the delicious cake that is your beautiful and wholesome life.
By unleashing your masculine power, you can fully “penetrate” the world.
When you step into your masculinity, you ignite her femininity.
Making her feel safe, protected, and comfortable, you inspire confidence in her feminine.
But here are the most valuable lessons that I have learned from the book.
It’s about killing the “nice guy” and learning to state my truth.
I need to share my true feelings with everyone around me.
If I’m unhappy about something, then I need to share it.
If I’m interested in the woman who I’m talking to, then I need to state my intentions.
Speaking my truth sets me free because it’s irrefutable.
It’s about understanding what I stand for and living my life according to that.
After knowing myself, I can say “yes” to the things that truly serve me.
In the process, I’m saying “no” to things that don’t.
Firmly standing my ground, I will inevitably anger some people.
That’s part of the journey of filtering out the wrong people who don’t belong in my life.
As a result, those who truly believe in me and resonate with my message will gravitate towards me and stay in my life.
This applies to both men and women.
By being 100% unapologetically me, I have love and respect for myself.
In return, I train those around me to do the same.
I still want to be kind to others but it has to come from a genuine place.
This can only happen after I have fulfilled my needs and wants by first taking care of myself.
The last and fourth pillar of my life is personal growth.
Everyone’s definition of personal growth is different.
The book that had the biggest impact on me was As a Man Thinketh by James Allen.
It emphasizes the importance of healthy thinking and self-talk.
The mind is my sacred garden and I must protect it with intense care.
Because what I plant in the mind will grow over time, I need to be extremely cautious of the seeds that I plant.
If I plant seeds of negative thought, then they will grow into detrimental weeds.
But if I plant seeds of positive thoughts, then they will blossom into beautiful flowers and strong tall trees that bear fruits.
The thing that you constantly have is negative self-talk.
That inner voice that tells you why you can’t do something.
If you were to drag that person out of you and meet him for the first time, then you would definitely not be friends with him because of the nasty things that he tells you.
If you were to talk to your friends like you talk to yourself, then you wouldn’t have any friends.
That’s why I have learned to surround myself with people who believe in me and lift me higher rather than with people who drain my energy and bring me down.
Having courage and self-respect allowed me to do that.
The second book that helped me on my personal growth journey is The War of Art by Steven Pressfield.
The biggest lesson I learned was realizing that the more resistance and fear I have for something, the more definite I need to do it.
After reading the book, I have adopted the professional mindset to overcome resistance and lean into my fears.
A professional shows up and does the work no matter what.
I own it to the world to share my unique gift.
It would be selfish of me if I don’t because it’s much bigger than myself.
I have the “need” to contribute to society and help it advance.
Apply Your Knowledge
Books, podcasts, TED talks, articles, mentors, and like-minded friends are my influences in my life.
Because I’m the product of my environment, I have become the person that I am today.
As a result, I’m in the best shape of my life.
I get to make a positive impact and income doing what I love.
The income is not where I want to be yet, but I’m staying on the path and enjoying the journey.
The fact that I’m constantly taking action towards the life that I want makes me a success because that’s my definition of success.
The quality of my romantic relationships has flourished because I’m no longer settling.
I choose a woman who is excited to be with me and I feel the same about her.
When both parties choose each other, we both win.
Now I have an abundant social circle filled with people who are excited to spend time with me.
We value and respect each other’s time because we mutually benefit from the value that we both get.
I have leaned into many of my fears such as public speaking, talking to attractive women, and the fear of heights.
Because I’m human, I still feel fear in those areas and it will never go away.
But I’m much more comfortable handling those fears.
By improving myself, I make my other three pillars that much stronger.
Now I live my life by design and not by default.
I want that for you too!
You can spend all the time in the world gathering knowledge, but if you don’t apply it, it means nothing.
Just like Dale Carnegie said, “knowledge isn’t power until it’s applied.”
Have an open-mind of all the information you just read and apply it to your life.
Then and only then will you see results.
Take Consistent Action
To have massive results in your life, apply the 80/20 rule.
Spend 80% of your time taking action and only 20% gathering knowledge.
What’s one area of life that you want to improve on?
Are you consistent with your actions?
It might be your health.
Are consistent with eating healthy nutrient-dense foods such as vegetables?
What about your workouts?
How about the quality of your sleep and recovery?
Stop chasing for that magic pill that will fix everything because it doesn’t exist.
It’s about mastering the fundamentals.
There’s no shortcut.
You have to do the work.
That’s the secret to success, however you define it.
Just like Henry Ford said, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
You must continue to learn because what got you here won’t get you there.
If you’re not happy with your results, then it’s time to make a change.
Your results are a direct reflection of your efforts.
To deserve what you want in life, you must earn it.
And if you haven’t work for it, then you don’t deserve it.
At the end of the day, you make time for the things and people who are important you.
Your actions always speak louder than words.
If you want to create the life that you want, then start taking deliberate and consistent action towards building it.
In the process, you’ll also become the person that you want to be.
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