“The way we do anything is the way we do everything.”
– Martha Beck
The Pillars of Life
My life philosophy is to always do my best.
This translates to taking care of myself and those around me. However, before providing for others, I must first be able to supply for myself.
And how I treat myself indicates how I will do for others. That’s because how I do one thing is more or less how I do everything.
This stems from my core character which affects my behaviors.
For example, if I take my health seriously, chances are high that I will also deliberately handle other areas of life.
While my goal is to strive for a well-balanced life, I will inevitably focus on one area more than another.
For example, my current focus is my business. Therefore most of my time and energy are dedicated to that.
However, I also value my health, close relationships, and personal growth.
And whenever I find myself spending too much time on my venture while neglecting my health by not devoting time for exercise, then it’s time to shift my priorities and concentrate more on my body and mind.
This also applies to my relationships and personal growth if they’re not getting the attention they deserve.
Therefore the key to a well-balanced life is to always be aware of my contributions to each pillar of my life. Over time, I will be able to maintain a near-perfect balance and harmony in the four important aspects.
Fill Your “Buckets”
Jonathan Field’s book How to Live a Good Life: Soulful Stories, Surprising Science, and Practical Wisdom separates life into three “buckets.”
The first is vitality which corresponds to your overall health- having a strong body and mind.
Your health is always your first indication of wealth.
That’s because when your health falls to the waist-side, every facet of life will also suffer. Without optimal energy, you can’t put in your best efforts in everything you do.
Even if you acquire all the money in the world, you won’t have the health to enjoy it. And you can’t be fully present in your interactions with others.
Your health is always your first priority and foundation in life. Because without it, nothing else matters.
The second bucket is connection, which is your level of meaningful relationships.
They are important since romantic and platonic relationships greatly impact your overall happiness and well-being.
Without companions, you’re forced to endure the pain and burden all by yourself. Even in moments of joy, you won’t have anyone to share them with.
It’s important to find people who you resonate and connect with on a deep level.
This may take months or even years to develop, but the benefits are well worth it because those relationships contribute to your overall health level.
These connections may include the following:
Invest time in those who believe in you and truly want to see you become successful and happy. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t value and appreciate you.
Lastly, the third bucket is contribution – your level of effort in the world by sharing your beliefs and message through your strength and gifts.
This is a commitment to a cause that’s much bigger than yourself. When you give to others, you experience happiness through your unselfish acts. This is one to avoid suffering.
What unique gift can you give to the world?
Whether you realize it or not, there’s greatness inside of you. Your distinct strengths and beauty have a special place in this world.
It’s your responsibility to nurture and develop those skills to build a legacy by positively impacting the world.
When you focus on filling these three buckets of life, you will live a great life.
Living a Well-Balanced Life
To live a well-balanced life, you must first identify what’s important to you.
Ask yourself: “What does a balanced life mean and look like to me?”
You can start by first discovering your core values and beliefs.
By only after knowing your values, you can start living a meaningful life.
Guided by your inner compass, you will start to do more activities that are aligned with your values.
In practicality, you’ll start to say “yes” to things that truly serve you. Consequently, you’ll turn down things that don’t.
Understanding your belief system, you know what you stand for.
The more harmonized you are with your core beliefs, the more real and genuine you’ll become. That’s when you’ll start living from your deepest truth.
Being 100% unapologetic is the result of living a congruent life.
With your clear intentions, you can start to balance the important pillars and buckets of your life.
For example, if you value quality time with your loved ones, you’ll set boundaries for work so you can spend more time with them.
Regardless of how busy and hectic your job or business may get, you make time for your family and close friends.
Valuing health, you will dedicate time to exercise and eat healthily even if your work may consume most of your time.
The Connection Between Each Pillar
The most challenging part of maintaining a well-balanced life is having the awareness to recognize when one of your pillars of life is being neglected.
Life comes in waves as you will need to dedicate more time to certain areas of life: health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth.
It may be counterintuitive, but you will have a higher level of success in one area if you also focus on other aspects simultaneously.
Take wealth for example.
Your wealth will increase if you focus on your health, relationship, and personal growth.
That’s because you will have more energy to do high-quality work when you take care of your health.
Feeling cared for and deeply connected with others, you can passionately pursue your purpose and mission knowing you have support from your loved ones.
Lastly, learning and becoming a better version of yourself, you will have more skills to increase performance.
Because all of your life pillars are interconnected, you will do your best when you take care of all of your pillars and buckets.
A well-balanced life is different for everyone.
How do you define it?
Is your health important to you?
What about your wealth, relationships, and personal growth?
If you’re feeling stuck on improving your health, then perhaps it’s time to shift focus to improving your relationships.
Even when one pillar is not getting enough contribution, this will cause other areas to suffer.
Therefore, the key to having more success in all facets is to work on all of them simultaneously.
The amount of work for each may vary depending on your primary focus.
For example, just because you’re healthy now doesn’t mean you can stop exercising and eating healthily and expect to be fit in the future.
Dedicate time to each of your life’s pillars so you can live your definition of a well-balanced life.
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