“The price of greatness is responsibility.”
― Winston S. Churchill
Take Full Responsibility for Your Life
By taking full responsibility, I take extreme ownership of the following:
- Embracing my past,
- Planning for the future,
- Treasuring the present moment.
Whatever has occurred in the past is final. There’s nothing I can do to change it. All I can do is to fully accept it.
I can find the powerful lessons from my history to propel me forward.
For example, I’ve experienced a few heartbreaks in my life. No matter how hard I try to forget them, those incidents can’t be undone.
The only thing I can change is my perspective on those events.
Rather than letting them drag me down, I can view them as learning opportunities. As a result, I’ve learned to improve myself and the quality of my relationships.
I’m grateful for those hardships because I accelerated onward, by not repeating those same mistakes.
As for the future, I can only prepare for it. Since it hasn’t come yet, there’s no use in stressing about it.
The only moment I can focus on is now.
This can only happen after I make peace with my past and not anxious for the future.
Fully immersed in the present moment, I enjoy the beautiful gift that is life.
By living in the now, I can experience the following benefits:
- Love everything that’s around me by tapping into my five senses.
- Give my full attention to those I’m in conversation with.
- Concentrate 100% on my current task.
When I’m completely engaged in the activity, I come most alive.
That’s because I’m not thinking about the past nor fantasizing about the future. The only thing of importance is what I’m currently working on in that moment.
However, when I lose my attention on the assignment at hand, I’m no longer present. I’m either dwelling on the past or living in the future.
To bring me back in the present moment, I breathe intentionally with long inhales and exhales.
With awareness, I can enjoy the now.
By doing so, I can start to take full responsibility for my life.
You Are the Solution to All Your Problems
Reflecting back on life, everything that has happened (positive and negative) is because of me. Whether it was my struggles with health, relationships, or professional endeavors, I was responsible for those hardships. On the other hand, I was also the reason for my wins in those areas.
From my past experiences, I’ve learned this important fact:
I’m the cause of all my problems.
But fortunately, I’m also the solution.
When I take ownership of my challenges, I look for answers to overcome them. I understand that no one is going to assist me unless I first help myself.
If the obstacle is too great to handle alone, I gladly ask for guidance. That’s because I believe in the quality of my relationships. Those who genuinely care will want to support me.
Those who like and trust you will want to help you.
But first, you must take ownership of your own problems. You do that by trying to solve the issue by yourself. If you don’t succeed after deliberate effort, then seek out for assistance.
Don’t let your ego get in the way.
Taking responsibility for your obstacles is critical to becoming a man of strong character.
Become a Person of Empowerment
When you take accountability for your life, you become the hero of your journey.
Regardless of where you are today, you have the power to change your circumstances. Despite having non-ideal results, you can ultimately alter the course of your life.
After taking full responsibility, you can determine the cause of your problems and solve them. You do that by taking action towards your desired outcomes.
How empowering is it to know you have the capability to do that?
How uplifting is it to know all your positive results are because of you?
By becoming a leader in your own life, you get to write your own story. You’re the captain of your ship, and you get to steer it in the direction your heart desires.
Others who want to support you will join you on the adventure.
Therefore, always stay true to yourself. You don’t “need” to change yourself to please anyone. However, you improve yourself because you choose to, out of love for yourself and others.
That’s because the better you become, the more effective you can serve the world.
This leads to a key point:
It’s an honor and privilege to help people.
Whenever you choose to be service of others (parent, friend, colleague, etc.), you are no longer suffering.
For example, I have volunteered for many organizations in the past. They include animal shelters, soup kitchens, and small organic farms. In all my time there, not once did I feel misery. I enjoyed the work because I was contributing to a meaningful cause.
No one forced me to be there.
I wanted to serve those communities because I resonated with their message.
To be truly responsible, you also care for those who are important to you. They can include:
- And anyone who you can be service of.
However, you can only aid those who want to be helped.
The most important person in your life is yourself.
It sounds selfish, but it’s true.
Think about it.
If there’s no you, would anyone (or anything) else matter?
The answer is “no.”
Therefore, you must first take care of yourself, then you can serve others. Your well-being is your own responsibility. Others can only help you along the way.
Once you have met your own needs, you can be more valuable in assisting those who want your support.
What areas of your life are you taking responsibility for?
What aspects are you not taking ownership of?
How will your life improve if you started taking actions towards enhancing that particular facet?
Start taking complete responsibility for your life now!
This means embracing your past, enjoying the present moment, and planning for the future. At the same time, love those who are important to you, by giving them the attention and support they deserve.
Always remember: you can only help those who want to be helped.
But when you live life responsibly and authentically, you will only attract people who resonate with you.
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