“Seasons change, people grow together and apart, life moves on. You will be OK, embrace it.”
― Alexandra Elle
On my journey of personal development, I had to reduce and eliminate interactions with certain people. They were toxic with negative habits that drained my energy when I spent time with them.
For example, they would always complain about their life circumstances. Despite the lack of happiness, they didn’t do anything about it.
Often times, we were unproductive by drinking alcohol and eating unhealthy food.
The types of conversation we had were mentally disempowering.
Because I am the product of my environment, which includes the people I spend my time with and the things I do, I expressed self-love and self-respect by choosing to remove them completely from my life.
Those low-value behaviors weren’t serving my purpose to become my best.
By not spending time with those who were pulling me down, I had more time to focus on those who were more aligned with my values and beliefs.
After engaging with people who provide support, I felt empowered to improve because they gave me love and high levels of positive energy.
They supplied invigorating conversations that provided assurance and motivation to pursue my goals and dreams.
As we age, we tend to make new friends and lose contact with companions from the past. This may be caused by geography or the lack of drive to stay in touch with others.
When that happens, there’s nothing inherently wrong with that.
It is the path least resistant.
However, when you truly value others, you will put in the work to stay connected.
Whether it’s sending a quick message or spending quality time with the other person, you’re making a conscious decision to deepen your relationship.
But there are times when it’s one-sided as others might not reciprocate because of the difference in priorities.
For example, if you reached out to someone whom you haven’t spoken to in a long time and he or she doesn’t respond back. Chances are high that you’re not all important to that person.
That’s because if you were, they would make the time and effort for you.
As we age, our values, wants, and goals can also change. Due to those differences, our relationships from the past can grow apart and even disintegrate completely.
Despite those life’s inevitable challenges, you can still persist on with your new desires and beliefs. Those in your life have a choice:
They can either support you or not.
You give the option to them.
Through their actions, you can identify the gravity of your relationships.
Make Empowering Choices
When it comes to relationships (romantic or platonic), there’s no right or wrong. It’s just a matter of compatibility.
It takes both parties to make any connection work.
The truth is this:
We always have a choice in selecting who we want to further strengthen our relationships with.
For those who reciprocate, you can cultivate those meaningful connections. Don’t focus your time on those who don’t because it’s a waste of time and energy.
This is part of the outgrowing process.
You can only add value to those who want it.
By making the “right” choices, you can have deeper relationships with others who bring you up. As a result, you can experience more happiness in your life by having people who love and believe in you.
Those are the people who are worth your effort.
Since your time is limited, therefore it’s in your best interest to use it wisely.
Regardless of the reason, it’s natural for some relationships to fall apart.
With time, people can change for better or worse.
Despite that, we can actively choose who we want to surround ourselves with. We can select the right influences for us by choosing those who see the best in us.
It’s a conscious decision.
This filtering process is a constant practice for the rest of your life.
To nurture those types of relationships, invest continuous time and effort. By doing so, you’ll nourish and strengthen your connections with people who you care about and vice versa.
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