“Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.” – Japanese Proverb Fear Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger. I’m experiencing fear now as I write this article. And that fear is the fear of rejection - not being “good enough” for acceptance. This fear is the cause for the fear of public speaking which is the number one phobia in...
  “Men do not attract what they want, but who they are.” – James Allen Choose Empowering Thoughts My thoughts are the seedlings of my reality. Oblivious to the power of my thoughts, I was easily persuaded and influenced by society and those around me. This included information taught in school, my friends’ stories and marketing messages seen on television. Those influences caused me...
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first...
“A man must love his father and yet be free of his father’s expectations and criticisms in order to be a free man.” — David Deida Your Biggest Influence As a first generation immigrant, my biggest influence in life is my parents.I experienced poverty growing up in a rural village in China with a small rice field with no running water. Growing up...
“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” ― May Sarton As I celebrated my 30th birthday in February, I reflected back on the valuable lessons that I learned in my 20s. Here are my biggest takeaways. 1. Be 100% Unapologetic This is the most important lesson that I learned in my 20s. Being myself was difficult as...
“Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones.” - Benjamin Franklin Do you like to watch porn? Have you used porn as a way to masturbate? Do you use porn and masturbation as a tool make yourself feel good instantly? If so, I used to do that too. I first discovered porn...
“The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.” - Richard Leider Your Life's Purpose Are you living a life of purpose? Do you feel excited waking up in the morning to start your day or do you dread about how your day will unfold?   Are you grounded like a mountain and know what you stand for or are you just...
“Self-discipline is when your highest desire rules your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion.” ― David Deida Choose Delayed Gratification Discipline is the most important attribute for success, however you define it. Growing up in China, I was forced to be “disciplined” out of fear, the fear of physical punishment. After breaking free from communism in...
“Accountability breeds response-ability.” – Stephen Covey Personal Accountability Personal accountability creates excellence. Every one of my goals is important to me because they give guidance and direction in my life. Here are some of my current daily goals. Deliberately practice swimming Meet two attractive women Write a minimum of 500 words Answer one Quora question Although achieving these goals are important, I don’t...
“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.” ― Steven Pressfield Resistance How many times have you experienced resistance? That time when you wanted to do something but you procrastinated thinking that you will have time later to do it? You chose...

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