“The most loving women are the women who will test you the most.”
― David Deida
Attraction to the Feminine
As a man, I have both masculine and feminine energy.
But filled with more masculinity, I am naturally attracted to things and people filled with feminine energy - anything that’s radiant, alive, relaxing, moving, and enlivening. They may include the following:
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“If you’re holding something back, it’s holding you back.”
― Shaun T
Practice Vulnerability
Growing up, I was never good at dealing with women. I was clueless when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.
There were times when girls teased me in a playful way and I had no idea they were romantically interested in me.
For example, basketball was one of my...
“Being present — paying attention to what’s going on rather than being caught up in your thoughts — can yield immense rewards. When you exhibit presence, those around you feel listened to, respected, and valued.”
― Olivia Fox Cabane
Charisma is Learnable
As an introvert, I need my alone time to recharge and recuperate. Although I enjoy attending social settings, being around...
“The urge to find the real facts is destructive only to people or systems (friendships, family dynamics, political dynasties) that are based on lies. The truth can scare you half to death, but it’s never as destructive as deception.”
― Martha Beck
Find Your True Self
In the past, I used to believe everyone had the same line of thinking. My “everybody”...
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
― Dale Carnegie
Be Genuinely Interested in Others
In past social settings, I’ve mostly talked about topics that fascinated me.
But after reading the book How to Win Friends and Influence People by...
“There is one rule, above all others, for being a man. Whatever comes, face it on your feet.”
– Robert Jordan
Start with Yourself
To be a self-sufficient man, I need to be able to take care of myself. That includes the following life aspects:
Health (physical, mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual)
Finance
Relationship (significant other, family, and friends)
This is congruent...
“Seasons change, people grow together and apart, life moves on. You will be OK, embrace it.”
― Alexandra Elle
Practice Self-Respect
On my journey of personal development, I had to reduce and eliminate interactions with certain people. They were toxic with negative habits that drained my energy when I spent time with them.
For example, they would always complain about their life...
“You are the sum total of the people you meet and interact with in the world. Whether it’s your family, peers, or co-workers, the opportunities you have and the things that you learn all come through doors that other people open for you.”
― Tanner Colby
The Impact of Social Capital
During my trip to Vietnam in January 2018, I met...
“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.”
― Gary Chapman
Identify Your Love Language
Based on the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, my primary love language is quality time. A close second is physical...
“Your network is your net worth.”
― Tim Sanders
The Layers of Social Network
Valuing relationships, I always invest time in further deepening my existing connections.
To expand my network, I’m constantly meeting new people.
In addition, I’m always evaluating my current relationships and filtering in the “right” people - those who believe in me and lift me higher. In the process, I weed...