“What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.”
― Brené Brown
Your first impression has a huge impact on your connections with others.
It takes about one-tenth of a second and you never get a second chance at making it. With a simple glance, others have judged you by your level of social status, education, and success.
Within minutes, they have also decided your level...
“What you seek is seeking you.”
― Mawlana Jalal-al-Din Rumi
Your Heart Knows the Way
Throughout my professional career, I have interviewed for many jobs.
And during all of them, I learned more about the company and my potential coworkers by asking engaging questions.
After gaining more knowledge about the interviewer and the organization, I either felt excited or indifferent about the new role.
This...
“Your network is your net worth.”
― Tim Sanders
The Layers of Social Network
Valuing relationships, I always invest time in further deepening my existing connections.
To expand my network, I’m constantly meeting new people.
In addition, I’m always evaluating my current relationships and filtering in the “right” people - those who believe in me and lift me higher. In the process, I weed...
“Being present — paying attention to what’s going on rather than being caught up in your thoughts — can yield immense rewards. When you exhibit presence, those around you feel listened to, respected, and valued.”
― Olivia Fox Cabane
Charisma is Learnable
As an introvert, I need my alone time to recharge and recuperate. Although I enjoy attending social settings, being around...
“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.”
― Gary Chapman
Identify Your Love Language
Based on the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, my primary love language is quality time. A close second is physical...
“The mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s difficult to see. When it’s calm, everything becomes clear.”
– Prasad Mahes
Practice Brutal Honesty With Yourself
In one of my past romantic relationships, I had to make the difficult decision of ending it.
The process leading up to that conclusion required time, space, and most importantly, brutal honesty with myself.
After evaluating the relationship,...
“Be the kind of person you want others to be.”
― Anurag Prakash Ray
In social dynamics, there are four main personality archetypes and they're not gender-specific. To show you each, let's imagine you're in a two-piece suit attending a fancy party for work.
In your hand, you're holding your favorite drink.
The Supplicative (Submissive) Type
The room has many of your coworkers and you see...
“Relationships: If you put up with it, you’re going to end up with it. Set the standard you want and don’t settle for less.”
― Steve Maraboli
Be A Professional
In one of my previous jobs, I noticed one of my colleagues was toxic. He would often gossip and complain about the workplace including the following:
Low pay
Incompetent management
Lack of professional growth
Not only...
“If you’re holding something back, it’s holding you back.”
― Shaun T
Practice Vulnerability
Growing up, I was never good at dealing with women. I was clueless when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.
There were times when girls teased me in a playful way and I had no idea they were romantically interested in me.
For example, basketball was one of my...
“In general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual's life energy. Humans connect with humans. Hiding one's humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.”
― Robert Glover
The “Nice Guy” Syndrome
In the past, I was the “nice guy.”
Growing up,...