“You are the sum total of the people you meet and interact with in the world. Whether it’s your family, peers, or co-workers, the opportunities you have and the things that you learn all come through doors that other people open for you.”
― Tanner Colby
The Impact of Social Capital
During my trip to Vietnam in January 2018, I met...
“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.”
― Gary Chapman
Identify Your Love Language
Based on the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, my primary love language is quality time. A close second is physical...
“Networking is not about hunting. It’s about farming. It’s about cultivating relationships.”
― Ivan Misner
The Importance of Networking
Valuing my network as my net worth, I invest time and effort to nourish my current relationships and to continuously expand my social circle.
In early 2013, I was working for a start-up biotech company in the San Francisco Bay Area as a process...
“There is one rule, above all others, for being a man. Whatever comes, face it on your feet.”
– Robert Jordan
Start with Yourself
To be a self-sufficient man, I need to be able to take care of myself. That includes the following life aspects:
Health (physical, mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual)
Finance
Relationship (significant other, family, and friends)
This is congruent...
“Ask for help. Not because you are weak. But because you want to remain strong.”
― Les Brown
You Can’t Do Everything on Your Own
Taking on a leadership role for any task, I oftentimes require assistance. For example, when I volunteer to lead a group discussion, I must clearly communicate with my fellow teammates about the following:
Responsibility
Accountability
Assistance and resources
...
“If you don't know what you want, you'll never find it. If you don't know what you deserve, you'll always settle for less. You will wander aimlessly, uncomfortably numb in your comfort zone, wondering how life has ended up here. Life starts now, live, love, laugh and let your light shine!”
― Rob Liano
Start with Your Core Values
To find a...
"Stop looking for a partner. Focus on your goals and rebuilding your life. The right person will eventually find their way to you."
— Shirley U. Care
Call In Your Queen
In 2011, I kick-started my personal development journey by first transforming my health. And after achieving what seemed impossible, I explored other facets of life.
This included improving the following:
Finance
Professional life
Personal growth
Relationships...
"To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people.”
― Charles T. Munger
Become a Chooser
The most fundamental need in life is survival. And the next “need” is procreation.
Hence, romantic relationships are a natural part of life.
But understand this important fact:
There...
“Seasons change, people grow together and apart, life moves on. You will be OK, embrace it.”
― Alexandra Elle
Practice Self-Respect
On my journey of personal development, I had to reduce and eliminate interactions with certain people. They were toxic with negative habits that drained my energy when I spent time with them.
For example, they would always complain about their life...
“The first step to being more attractive is to see rejection as a means to eliminate women who won't make you happy from your life. It's a blessing, not a curse.”
― Mark Manson
Identify Clearly What You Want in a Woman
There are an abundant amount of beautiful and attractive women everywhere, especially in metropolitan cities. However, my chances of finding...