“Your network is your net worth.”

― Tim Sanders

The Layers of Social Network

Valuing relationships, I always invest time in further deepening my existing connections.

To expand my network, I’m constantly meeting new people.

In addition, I’m always evaluating my current relationships and filtering in the “right” people – those who believe in me and lift me higher. In the process, I weed out the “wrong” people – others who drain my energy and bring me down.

As a result, I will have created relationships by design, not by default.

Here are the three layers of my social circle.

• Primary

1. 1. 1. They include my family members (parents, brothers, etc.).
      2. These are people who I’m born with. I do not have a choice in picking who they are. But fortunately, I have learned to love them, no matter how stubborn and annoying they can be at times.

• Secondary

1. 1. 1. My significant other and close friends belong to this group.
      2. Although I treat them like family, they are here because I can consciously select these people.

• Tertiary

1. 1. This last layer includes my mentors, friends, clients, and colleagues.
   2. On average, I see these people about once a week.

Because everyone in my three layers of social circle plays a huge part in my life, I intentionally choose who these people are.

Selecting the “Right” People

To decide if they are “right” for you, here are some questions to ask yourself:

• “Am I excited to be with this person?”
• “Does this individual add to my life?”
• “Is this person genuinely nice to me?”

If you’ve answered “no” to any of the above questions, it’s time to examine your relationship with them.

You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Don’t waste time with those who don’t reciprocate your generosity.

By not spending time with the “wrong” people, you’ll have more to spend with the “right” people. In addition, you can use that extra time to focus on yourself. You can invest in your personal growth and engage in your favorite hobbies.

When you choose to be with people who lift you up, you automatically filter out those who drag you down.

Nourish Your Existing Connections

After selecting those who lift me up, I dedicate time to strengthening those relationships.

To deepen my current connections, I spend quality time with them. Activities include:

• Hiking
• Backpacking
• Rock climbing
• Traveling
• Or simply meeting up and having meaningful conversations.

I pay them a gratitude visit to show those who are especially important to me. This involves reading a handwritten letter to them in person. As a result, they feel highly appreciated and loved.

Although you can add value to others through electronic communication, however, the most powerful way to bolster any relationship is through face-to-face interactions.

Because we are social creatures, we are hardwired to connect with others.

We can only truly do that in person.

You can nurture your existing relationships by spending quality time with others. This may include activities you both enjoy. Ask yourself:

“What hobbies do my friends enjoy?”

“What interests does this person have?”

To eliminate any doubt, you can always ask the other person.

By engaging in events that they enjoy (hopefully you do too), you will further develop those relationships.

Closing Thoughts

My time is my most valuable asset.

That’s because I will never get it back once I spend it. Hence, I choose wisely what I do with my time and whom I spend my time with. No matter what I do, there’s always an opportunity cost associated with it.

The same goes for relationships.

Instead of spending time with one person, I could be investing it in someone else. That’s why I only strengthen my relationships with those I like and trust.

As for romantic relationships, I would rather be by myself than be with the wrong person, no matter how scary and lonely it may be.

Deep down, I know what I want (and deserve). I will not settle for anything less.

I’ve learned that not everyone will like me. But those who do, they love me! Everyone in my social circle has helped shape me into who I am today.

Ask yourself:

• “Am I spending enough time with those most important to me?”
• “Am I surrounding myself with people who are lifting me up?”
• “Am I settling in my relationships?”

Stop focusing on those who don’t add value to you. Instead, concentrate on people who do. Others who truly like you will stay in your life.

It takes two whole people to make any relationship work. Both parties must contribute by investing time and effort.

There’s no forcing it.

If it doesn’t work out, it’s just a matter of compatibility. There’s no right or wrong.

However, the people who genuinely care about you will dedicate time and energy.

Their actions always speak louder than their words. Believe in what they do, not what they say.

The truth is this:

You already have uplifting relationships worth investing in.

Take a closer look at your current circle of influence. Those connections range from your parents to your former colleagues.

Start investing in them now, and watch your life explode with more happiness.

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