“Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”
― Theodore Roosevelt
Uphold Your Standards
To have space and time for self-reflection, I take quarterly solo backpacking trips in the wilderness.
This allows me to evaluate my life and goals without being immersed in them. Because while inside the jar, I can’t read the label that’s on the outside.
Holding...
“The most loving women are the women who will test you the most.”
― David Deida
Attraction to the Feminine
As a man, I have both masculine and feminine energy.
But filled with more masculinity, I am naturally attracted to things and people filled with feminine energy - anything that’s radiant, alive, relaxing, moving, and enlivening. They may include the following:
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"To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people.”
― Charles T. Munger
Become a Chooser
The most fundamental need in life is survival. And the next “need” is procreation.
Hence, romantic relationships are a natural part of life.
But understand this important fact:
There...
“You are the sum total of the people you meet and interact with in the world. Whether it’s your family, peers, or co-workers, the opportunities you have and the things that you learn all come through doors that other people open for you.”
― Tanner Colby
The Impact of Social Capital
During my trip to Vietnam in January 2018, I met...
“Ask for help. Not because you are weak. But because you want to remain strong.”
― Les Brown
You Can’t Do Everything on Your Own
Taking on a leadership role for any task, I oftentimes require assistance. For example, when I volunteer to lead a group discussion, I must clearly communicate with my fellow teammates about the following:
Responsibility
Accountability
Assistance and resources
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“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”
― John Gray
Dating Journey
Understanding the feminine was always a constant struggle in my journey with getting better with women.
During my passage, I met many fascinating women along the way.
Some were more interesting than others, but they were all uniquely special.
Viewing dating as fun, I enjoyed...
“Seasons change, people grow together and apart, life moves on. You will be OK, embrace it.”
― Alexandra Elle
Practice Self-Respect
On my journey of personal development, I had to reduce and eliminate interactions with certain people. They were toxic with negative habits that drained my energy when I spent time with them.
For example, they would always complain about their life...
“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.”
― Steve Maraboli
Stay True to Yourself
My most important discovery in life is my purpose - my reason for being here. It is the center of my universe.
This highest priority precedes everything else. However, that’s not to say other life aspects aren’t...
“I never listen to what a person says. I look at what a person does because what they do tells me who they really are.”
― Patty Houser
Live With Integrity
Oftentimes, I meet people who don’t follow through with their words.
They say what I want to hear, but never follow through with action.
This is a common theme with some of my...
“There is one rule, above all others, for being a man. Whatever comes, face it on your feet.”
– Robert Jordan
Start with Yourself
To be a self-sufficient man, I need to be able to take care of myself. That includes the following life aspects:
Health (physical, mental, psychological, emotional, and spiritual)
Finance
Relationship (significant other, family, and friends)
This is congruent...