“The mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s difficult to see. When it’s calm, everything becomes clear.”
– Prasad Mahes
Practice Brutal Honesty With Yourself
In one of my past romantic relationships, I had to make the difficult decision of ending it.
The process leading up to that conclusion required time, space, and most importantly, brutal honesty with myself.
After evaluating the relationship,...
“If you’re holding something back, it’s holding you back.”
― Shaun T
Practice Vulnerability
Growing up, I was never good at dealing with women. I was clueless when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.
There were times when girls teased me in a playful way and I had no idea they were romantically interested in me.
For example, basketball was one of my...
“Being present — paying attention to what’s going on rather than being caught up in your thoughts — can yield immense rewards. When you exhibit presence, those around you feel listened to, respected, and valued.”
― Olivia Fox Cabane
Charisma is Learnable
As an introvert, I need my alone time to recharge and recuperate. Although I enjoy attending social settings, being around...
“Relationships: If you put up with it, you’re going to end up with it. Set the standard you want and don’t settle for less.”
― Steve Maraboli
Be A Professional
In one of my previous jobs, I noticed one of my colleagues was toxic. He would often gossip and complain about the workplace including the following:
Low pay
Incompetent management
Lack of professional growth
Not only...
“Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.”
― Theodore Roosevelt
Uphold Your Standards
To have space and time for self-reflection, I take quarterly solo backpacking trips in the wilderness.
This allows me to evaluate my life and goals without being immersed in them. Because while inside the jar, I can’t read the label that’s on the outside.
Holding...
“Be the kind of person you want others to be.”
― Anurag Prakash Ray
In social dynamics, there are four main personality archetypes and they're not gender-specific. To show you each, let's imagine you're in a two-piece suit attending a fancy party for work.
In your hand, you're holding your favorite drink.
The Supplicative (Submissive) Type
The room has many of your coworkers and you see...
“Show me your friends and I'll show you your future.”
― Dan Pena
Find Your Tribe
In 2017, I spent a week in Los Angeles, California for a personal development program.
And that is when I met seven other wholesome men who also wanted to become better versions of themselves. We were all deeply committed because of the high cost (program and other...
“Your network is your net worth.”
― Tim Sanders
The Layers of Social Network
Valuing relationships, I always invest time in further deepening my existing connections.
To expand my network, I’m constantly meeting new people.
In addition, I’m always evaluating my current relationships and filtering in the “right” people - those who believe in me and lift me higher. In the process, I weed...
“What you seek is seeking you.”
― Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi
Become Your Best
Asking my social circle for dating advice, the most common answer I get is this:
“You just have to be yourself.”
They’re not wrong about that advice.
That's because being anyone else but myself is an act of deceit.
Not to mention that it’s difficult and tiresome to be someone I'm not.
The...
"Inside each of us is a natural born storyteller just waiting to be released."
– Robin Moore
Self-Discovery Journey
In early 2013, I had everything I was supposed to have - a well-paid job, a nice car, and great friends. In addition, I was working hard to save money to buy a house while deliberately working on my dating life.
Despite having all that, I...