“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”
― John Gray
Dating Journey
Understanding the feminine was always a constant struggle in my journey with getting better with women.
During my passage, I met many fascinating women along the way.
Some were more interesting than others, but they were all uniquely special.
Viewing dating as fun, I enjoyed...
“The mind is like water. When it’s turbulent, it’s difficult to see. When it’s calm, everything becomes clear.”
– Prasad Mahes
Practice Brutal Honesty With Yourself
In one of my past romantic relationships, I had to make the difficult decision of ending it.
The process leading up to that conclusion required time, space, and most importantly, brutal honesty with myself.
After evaluating the relationship,...
“Your network is your net worth.”
― Tim Sanders
The Layers of Social Network
Valuing relationships, I always invest time in further deepening my existing connections.
To expand my network, I’m constantly meeting new people.
In addition, I’m always evaluating my current relationships and filtering in the “right” people - those who believe in me and lift me higher. In the process, I weed...
"To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people.”
― Charles T. Munger
Become a Chooser
The most fundamental need in life is survival. And the next “need” is procreation.
Hence, romantic relationships are a natural part of life.
But understand this important fact:
There...
“Being present — paying attention to what’s going on rather than being caught up in your thoughts — can yield immense rewards. When you exhibit presence, those around you feel listened to, respected, and valued.”
― Olivia Fox Cabane
Charisma is Learnable
As an introvert, I need my alone time to recharge and recuperate. Although I enjoy attending social settings, being around...
“The good life is built with good relationships.”
― Robert Waldinger
The Benefits of Meaningful Relationships
The quality of your romantic and platonic relationships impacts your overall health and happiness. Quality beats quantity when it comes to relationships. Having healthy relationships allows you to:
Live longer - a commitment to a life partner
Better cope with stress - support from family and friends
Be physically healthier...
“If you’re holding something back, it’s holding you back.”
― Shaun T
Practice Vulnerability
Growing up, I was never good at dealing with women. I was clueless when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.
There were times when girls teased me in a playful way and I had no idea they were romantically interested in me.
For example, basketball was one of my...
“Ask for help. Not because you are weak. But because you want to remain strong.”
― Les Brown
You Can’t Do Everything on Your Own
Taking on a leadership role for any task, I oftentimes require assistance. For example, when I volunteer to lead a group discussion, I must clearly communicate with my fellow teammates about the following:
Responsibility
Accountability
Assistance and resources
...
“What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.”
― Brené Brown
Your first impression has a huge impact on your connections with others.
It takes about one-tenth of a second and you never get a second chance at making it. With a simple glance, others have judged you by your level of social status, education, and success.
Within minutes, they have also decided your level...
“In general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual's life energy. Humans connect with humans. Hiding one's humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.”
― Robert Glover
The “Nice Guy” Syndrome
In the past, I was the “nice guy.”
Growing up,...